Parents Talk: How Do I Talk to Our Kids About Divorce?

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This week's discussion topic:

After 11 years of marriage, my husband and I have decided to get a divorce. We've tried to work things out for the sake of our three children ages 8, 6 and 3, but it's not happening. We've just grown apart.

My question is, how do I tell our kids? My husband will be moving out of our home and getting an apartment nearby, so he will still be close and still involved on a daily basis, but I'm not sure how to explain to our children that mom and dad are no longer a couple.