Valentines Day: Are You Speaking The Language Of Love?

It’s Valentine’s Day and that must mean love is in the air. While many American men will succumb to the obligatory dinner reservations, flowers, and the traditional box of chocolates to please their mate, some may wonder what love has to do with any of those traditions.

Seriously, what does love have to do with a lovely card, a tasty box of nougat-filled chocolates, or an expensive dinner that you have to dress up to enjoy?

Probably not a lot or probably everything, depending on which love language you speak.

In fact, studies have shown that everyone has a love language all their own.

According to author Gary Chapman, there are "5 Love Languages," and it's a great idea to know which one of these is yours and which one your significant other responses to the best.

Perhaps your loved one loves compliments. It has little to do with vanity or ego, and everything to do with how that particular someone is wired. Even a simple “thank you,” “awesome job” or “I appreciate you,” can do wonders for some people. If that is the case, then their love language is likely words of affirmation, so pour on the praise and make them feel special.

Telling him or her they are beautiful, or the best cook ever can make their heart soar. Either way, it doesn’t cost a thing to be kind.

Then of course, there’s that all-important and erstwhile honey-do list that can drive a man insane. While some husbands may be annoyed by the so-called menial tasks, others will do those things willingly and often cheerfully.

This love language is known as acts of service. If someone gets up and takes out the trash in your house, or folds the laundry without ever being asked, they could just be saying “I love you.”

Physical touch is another of those love languages. If your significant other lives for a hug, holding hands or a really good cuddle, chances are physical touch is their love language. Not to mention, it releases endorphins when you hug a loved one.

Quality time. Yes, hanging out with your spouse at an antique shop, farmer’s market, or in front of the TV, could be the perfect way to say “I love you.” As long as you are in the same room or interacting with that person, they are feeling the love.

The last language of love is gifts. People who love giving gifts and getting gifts feel the love at Christmas, birthdays, and yes, Valentine's Day, too.

For people whose love language is gifts, going out for dinner, and receiving even the simplest of gifts will make him or her feel special, and send a clear message that they are indeed, loved.

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