UNG : Nigel Cares: Put Focus On Actions Over Image

Press release from University of North Georgia:

February 28, 2022

I listened intently until she fell silent. Then I spoke, "Do you realize you just talked for 5 minutes about what was important about your friend and never once mentioned a physical attribute of their body?"

So I will challenge you just like I challenged her. Think about it. Aren't the inner qualities of a person, rather than the shape or size of their body, so much more important? Aren't the shared values or differing attitudes what ultimately make an attraction work or halt a relationship? Aren't the person's behaviors, choices, decisions, actions, and personality what make them distinctive?

Think about it. What qualities do you have that you want others to notice and appreciate about you? Just like you spend time exercising your body, maybe you should also spend some time exercising those aspects, talents, and endowments that make up your whole person. I think you will find improved self-image is a surprise result.

Another way to put this in to practice is to stop complimenting other people on their appearance and instead start complimenting them on one or more of the attributes to like or admire about them. Likewise, don't be critical of someone's appearance or weight. Practice taking someone seriously for what they say rather than how they look.

Finally, if you, or someone you know, is struggling with body image issues or an eating disorder, seek help. Body image issues and eating disorders can be and are treated successfully all the time. It may not be easy, but with the right help many people really do recover.

For more helpful information, visit the National Eating Disorders Association website.

This press release was produced by University of North Georgia. The views expressed here are the author’s own.