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When Grief Gets Personal
Using the Enneagram to explore your unique way of loving, losing, and finding your way forward
Understanding Grief Through the Lens of the Enneagram
Grief isn’t one-size-fits-all. Some people feel it like a tidal wave crashing over their whole world, while others experience it as a quiet ache they carry in their chest. Still others might channel it into action, caretaking, or even humor. It’s not wrong—it’s just different. And this is exactly where the Enneagram becomes a powerful and compassionate tool.
At its heart, the Enneagram is a map of nine core personality types, each with its own way of navigating the world, relationships, and yes—loss. It’s not about putting people in boxes; it’s about understanding which box you already live in, so you can begin to climb out with more awareness and grace.
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When we grieve, our type doesn’t disappear—it gets louder. A Type Two may feel unworthy of their own grief and focus entirely on helping others. A Type Five might withdraw into solitude, trying to “figure it all out” logically. A Type Seven could try to outrun pain with distractions or spiritual bypassing. No two grief journeys are the same, but understanding why we grieve the way we do can be life-changing.
That’s the grounding premise of Navigating Grief: Finding Yourself Through the Sacred Lens of the Enneagram—a book that doesn’t tell you how to grieve, but invites you to look more deeply at how you already are. It honors the different ways grief shows up in the heart, the body, and the mind, gently guiding you back to yourself, not through forced healing, but through compassionate understanding.
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This isn’t just a book about grief. It’s a mirror. A hand on your shoulder. A roadmap for when you’re walking through the fog and need a language for what you’re feeling but can’t quite name.
Grief is sacred. So is self-knowledge. And when the two meet, healing doesn’t have to feel like a fight—it becomes a kind of homecoming.
And maybe, just maybe, that’s what we’re really looking for after all.
Carolyn Tucker is a Transformation Coach and author whose goal is to help people to understand their unique approach to life, love, growth and grief.
