Time For Children

The stream of tough topics for parents to explain can feel unending: social unrest, hate crimes, natural disasters ... the pandemic. Many children and teens have struggled to process what they see at school, in their neighborhoods and on the news.

The Day family confront this challenge together every Tuesday. “In our family,” says mom, Nikki, “there is no stupid question. It’s an open forum.” Dad, Brady, adds, “We’ve used white board animations, such as how to talk to your parents, sections from the “Young People Ask,” and “What Your Peers Say” series.” All found on jw.org.

That open communication was invaluable when a group of protestors blocked the interstate near their home in Little Rock, Arkansas in May of 2020. “That was close,” says Nikki. ” Daughter Emma, 16, wondered “What will we do if this happens again?” Youngest daughter Eden (14) adds, “It was scary for me to think about it, but it’s hard not to think about it because it’s everywhere.” Dad, Brady, explains, “It can be a challenge when you try to keep up with world events not to let the interpretation of those current events on the channel you’re watching affect how you’re looking at those things.”

They used their family night to discuss a series of ‘what if’s.’ What if they all were separated and couldn’t get home? What if you’re alone and have only yourself? Says Nikki, “Having a plan was very comforting. It helped to know we’re ready.” Brady agrees, adding, “We can get through this."

In an ever-changing and challenging world, experts recommend regular family discussions to help young ones build resilience.

“Good communication is essential for a child’s survival in this world,” said James Wright, a California-based family counselor and conflict resolution mediator. “Why not have a family discussion once a week and talk about what’s going on in your lives?”

The Days are not alone in holding to a set time to have family discussions. For nearly two decades, families of Jehovah’s Witnesses like theirs around the world have been encouraged to make “family worship” an uninterrupted weekly routine.

“For many of our families, their weekly discussions are among the most important hours of the week,” said Robert Hendriks, U.S. spokesman for Jehovah’s Witnesses. “It has brought thousands of our families closer together and helped children feel safe and loved.”

In hurricane-pummeled New Orleans, the Andrades address safety concerns with their two sons during their regular family worship night.

“On one of our family nights, we were able to put our emergency go bags together and practice what we would do if we were to get separated during a natural disaster,” said mom Ashley Andrade, who safely evacuated with her family before Hurricane Ida uprooted trees and downed power lines on their street.

Her family strengthened this routine in 2009 when Jehovah’s Witnesses reduced their midweek meetings from two to one, freeing up an evening each week for families to enjoy such time together.

“Meeting in large groups for worship is a Bible command, but the Bible also tells parents to make time to talk with their kids,” said Hendriks. “The change to our weekly meetings helped families to prioritize unhurried Bible discussions tailored to their needs.”

For the Cariagas of Lomita, California, their weekly discussion provided a time to promptly address racism when their three girls saw news reports about hate crimes targeting their Asian community.

“The articles on jw.org about prejudice and the video about anxiety were really helpful,” said mom Lorrie Cariaga, referencing free resources on the official website of Jehovah’s Witnesses, where they often turn for practical and scriptural solutions to family concerns.

Along with serious topics, the Cariagas mix in singing, dramatic performances, and hiking in their family worship together. “Family time is like an open space; it's relaxed, and it's always fun,” said Sophie, 14.

Family nights forged something special for Emma Day too. “We begged our parents to do extra family worship because we loved it so much.”