Caregiver Support Group Offers Tips On Patience When Dealing With Loved One's Dementia

CHICAGO — “Defining reality” may sound like the flighty aim of a college course in philosophy or metaphysics. But to those caring for a family member or friend with dementia, it has a more concrete implication. That’s the subject of the next meeting of the Smith Village Caregiver Support Group, 6:30p.m. Tuesday, Dec. 16, at 2320 West 113th Place in Chicago.

“People with dementia often experience a view of the world that doesn’t match with our own.
But caregivers must always remember that this ‘reality’ is nonetheless real to that person. The way a caregiver responds has everything to do with the success of each interaction,” said Smith Village resident Alice Keane, who co-leads the senior community’s monthly meetings of the Caregiver Support Group.

Recognizing the alternate “reality” of people with dementia remains a guiding principle for caregivers all year, but it may be especially tested during the holiday season at celebrations that feature alcohol. “Something as basic as an evening cocktail can be a problem,” says Keane.
“Dementia affects short-term memory. So a person might forget they’ve had one drink and reach for another, which can lead to arguments or confusion.”

After all, no one likes being told they’ve “had enough,” especially if they don’t recall having had any.) Adds Keane,

“The easiest suggestion is often to switch to non-alcoholic drinks — without saying anything — or selecting a restaurant that doesn’t serve liquor at all,” Keane added.

Caregivers are invited to join this timely, confidential meeting. To reserve a spot, call
773-474-7302. For more information about Smith Village, visit SmithVillage.com.