Smith Village Support Group Offers Tips To Caregivers Dealing With Ambiguous Loss

CHICAGO — The unique issues that confront caregivers dealing with “ambiguous loss” will be explored at Smith Village’s next Caregiver Support Group at 6:30 p.m. on Tuesday, Aug. 19, at 2320 W. 113th Place, Chicago.

Psychologists use this term to describe a loss that lacks a clear resolution or closure. This is because the mourning process takes place in stages but without full closure. The process is sometimes known as “frozen grief” and is rife with uncertainty.

Caregivers experience ambiguous loss with a loved one who is physically present but psychologically absent—or conversely, who is sharp as a tack but physically compromised.

“Learning to live with this uncertainty becomes a part of the caregiver’s role,” says Keane, group co-facilitator and Smith Village resident. “Coping involves acknowledging the loss that has taken place, while also developing a tolerance for the ambiguity.”

Keane and co-facilitator, Bridget Murphy, Smith Village life enrichment director, both of whom have completed the training program sponsored by the Alzheimer’s Association, emphasize that storytelling and shared memories can ease the process. But they don’t claim to have all the answers. Both want to hear from residents who have dealt with or are dealing with ambiguous loss.

Each of these free monthly meetings allows caregivers the chance to support and learn from one another—and to remember they must care for themselves as they care for others.
To reserve a spot, call 773-474-7302. For more information about Smith Village, visit SmithVillage.com.